Hi folks. Welcome to my first attempt at blogging. This is meant to be an experiment, and I think it will be a lot of fun. I’m fascinated by this new ‘game’ theory that all the guys I know are pounding into their heads. While I think it’s pretty ridiculous (I mean, how many times do I have to be asked whether he can read my palm, or whether he’s taller than his friend…), I have to acknowledge that it does seem to be based on psychological underpinnings that intrigue me. Specifically, I’ve learned two things by hanging out with my guy friends who ascribe to these theories and reading blogs of guys who promote them [see roissy.wordpress.com for exhibit A]:
1) Men value physical appearance over every other quality a woman could possibly possess. Forget trying to perfect your cooking skills, bedroom skills, or social skills. A woman could be a cold fish mute who couldn’t tell a pomegranate from a pineapple and every guy I know would line up to bang her if she’s hot.
2) Women place far less value on appearance when seeking a mate, looking to non-visual cues such as social status, wealth, power, intelligence, and attractiveness to other women. This is why women defy all logic by competing with one another unnecessarily, hunting married men, and going after losers just because they happen to be desired by other women.
So those are my epiphanies. Now to my experiment.
My goal is to date and flirt mindfully. Kind of like how people tell you to eat mindfully, where you take each bite, savor it in your mouth, and spend time assessing its flavor, texture, aroma and appearance – the opposite of shoving something down your throat when your stomach’s growling. So I’m going to try to be aware of both game tactics – conscious and unconscious – employed by the men in my dating life and my mental and physical reactions to those tactics. Cheers!
Oh, and now I have a new slogan, courtesy of my posts on the army guys who visited the colbert report (see the alphas/betas category): rank means nothing, title means nothing. confidence means everything.